Helper brought her man into the house

March 29, 2023

Dear Pastor,

I am 27 years old and I have a disability. I am doing my best because my relatives try to take care of me. I am living with one of my sisters. I help her in the house, cleaning and washing for her. I also cook when I am feeling well.

My sister has told me not to pressure myself. Before she took me to live with her, she had a day's worker who came in three times for the week. This girl was not doing anything much, and she spent the entire day talking on her phone. I told my sister that I can do what this girl is doing.

When she got the job, my sister told her not to bring any man in her house. I have been here and the man would come by, then they go into the helper's quarters and spend half of the day in there. I am not stupid; I know what they are in the room doing. My sister told her not to come back.

The girl didn't have any respect, because she knew I was there. She would be in that room for hours and turn up her radio, so I couldn't hear what they were doing. I didn't have to hear or see, I know that normal people would figure out what was going on.

I don't have any children. I feel sorry that I don't have any. The day this girl was leaving, her boyfriend came to pick her up. I stayed in my room because I did not want her to curse me. When she was leaving, she called out to me and told me that she wishes me well and she knows that she would get a better job. I didn't know what to say. I don't feel guilty telling my sister what was going on in her house.

I don't charge my sister for doing anything for her. I don't have to ask her for anything, either, because she is a woman and she knows what women need.


Dear P.M.,

This day's worker was too bold. She should have known that the way she behaves was inappropriate. She had no respect for you. Frankly speaking, she was just out of order. She should not have allowed her boyfriend to come to your sister's house, and for both of them to be in a room for a long period. She has no common sense. She should have known that you would tell your sister what was going on in her house while she was at work. Perhaps from the first day that man came to the house and she was entertaining him, your sister should have been told. She should have been fired on the spot.

I am glad that you are able to assist your sister in doing some house work although you are not very well. Continue to take good care of yourself. Lots of love to you and your sister.


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