My man wants sex all the time

Dear Pastor,

I am a 29-year-old female and I grew up in a home with two brothers. My parents taught them to be gentle.

They were not allowed to raise their voices at me and if they did, my parents, especially my mother, told them to apologise. My parents insisted that my brothers allowed me to walk in front of them and they had to hold the door for me. Whenever my brothers didn't allow me to walk in front of them, my mother told them "You are not the king; only the king is allowed to walk before a woman."

My father opens the car door for my mother and my brothers did the same thing for me. When I started dating, I expected the same courtesies from my dates. Only a few of them did. They opened car doors or even the doors at the restaurants where was taken. Anyhow, I ignored them. The man I married did all these good things, but he loves sex and has a bad temper. Even when I am seeing my menses, he wants us to have sex. I try to ask him to give me a few days to menstruate; it would soon be over. But as far as he is concerned, I did not want to have sex because I have another man.

One day I told him that I wished I had another man because the other man would have treated me better. I don't know how it feels to have another man; he is the only man I have had. I would like to meet with you to discuss my husband's behaviour and to get your suggestions. How can we meet?

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You may call the office at 876-929-1667 or 876-877-1009. But I will only be willing to see you if your husband will attend the sessions.

Pastor